At the beginning of every orientation session for mentoring programs, I ask the participants to write down any challenges they foresee regarding the success of their mentoring relationship. The #1 challenge, by far, is always time.  From business owners to triathletes, people are concerned about how to make time for the...

What is The More-In-Me Movement?

I believe we all have more in us. You. Me. All of us. I call it a movement because I want to instill this belief in everyone and spread the ‘more-in-me’ message far and wide. A movement is defined as an effort by many to achieve something. It’s not about me. It’s about us. Creating...

“Become a possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities — always see them, for they’re always there.” ~ Norman Vincent Peale

Being a possibilitarian has had quite an impact in my life.

After a 20 year corporate marketing/HR career, I obtained a...

I am embarrassed. I’ve been a runner since 1992. I’ve run 18 marathons including Boston and New York City as well as hundreds of shorter races. I’ve worked in the field of equity and inclusion since 1999 and have a Masters degree in Gender and Cultural Studies.

And I took for granted that I could enter and run a marathon...

The idea of establishing a resolution or intention for the year is a good one in theory. After all, where your focus goes, energy flows. The problem with many resolutions is that they’re often based on a deficit perspective or a negative frame. Lose 10 lbs. Exercise more. Spend more time with kids. Save more money. Lots of...

From the hundreds of mentoring partnerships I’ve witnessed in programs ranging from the tech industry to education to triathlon to government to community development, the single biggest factor in relationship breakdown is unclear expectations and lack of alignment on how to carry out the relationship. Same is true for informal, naturally...

When asked to reflect on relationships that have made a difference in their lives, many people think about their mentoring relationships. However, like other work and personal relationships, mentoring relationships fall along a continuum ranging from high quality to dysfunctional. Research has shown that one determining attribute of high...

“End. Hurry.” After writing the first post about slowing down (which I’ve since renamed “Version 1“) it occurred to me that there’s another interpretation. “What are you waiting for?” One of those dualities that makes life entertaining…how to slow down and hurry up at the same...

“End. Hurry.” I saw these words painted on the road while on my bike just ouside Killbear Provincial Park in Central Ontario. I assume they were in reference to some type of road race however it struck me that as we scurry around in our daily activities, it’s like we’re hurrying to get to the end. Our focus is on getting...

In 7th grade, there was a beautiful big tree in the schoolyard. It was just perfect for climbing. It had large limbs reaching out from the trunk the right distance apart to be able to move higher up into the tree with relative ease.

I loved climbing trees. One day I talked a friend into climbing the tree with me to eat our lunch. A short while...