• I’m not sure.
• I don’t know
• I’ll wait and see
• I’m not ready yet.
• What if I’m wrong?
• What if I change my mind?
Sound familiar? The sounds of inaction. Being stuck. Immobile.
We’ve all used these phrases at one time or another and yes, sometimes it is wise to be cautious. More often, however, comments such as the ones above are a result of fear of the unknown. Of uncertainty. The unknown feels murky. Messy. We want clarity. We want our lives to be simple and secure. We want to go directly from A to B. Yet getting from A to B in life is rarely a straight line. And then B disappears and we don’t know which way to turn. Clarity isn’t linear. Clarity comes as a dynamic, ever shifting process of unfolding. We make one decision. We take one step. We re-evaluate. Then take another step. Perhaps in the same direction. Perhaps down a different path. The path is made by walking. Only by moving in one direction do we know if it’s the direction we want to go or whether to try something else. How do we figure it out? How do we know what is the ‘right’ first step? How do we know what path to take? How do we find the assuredness that we’re after?
For as much as we fear the discomfort of the unknown, the known can hold a lot of discomfort too. We can know we’re unhappy and stuck in a rut, yet we’re willing to put up with this discomfort rather than venture out. Before taking a step, we want to be sure. Certain. Yet, the only thing we can be certain about is change. The richness and learning happens in the unknown.
The discomfort of uncertainty is the most precious part of the experience. If you can be comfortable with not knowing, you can learn anything. And if not, you’ve stopped before you’ve begun. ~Professor Wilder
When it comes right down to it, the most clarity we can have is the clarity in the present moment. We can have hindsight which is clarity in history and helpful to inform future choices. But we can never be completely certain about how events will unfold. It really does come down to appreciating the journey. Choosing consciously from the clarity of each moment. Taking one step after another towards our goals, regardless of how circuitous - or uncomfortable - the route ends up being.
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